Hiatus

There’s been a bit of a hiatus in my blogging. It started when I decided that I wanted a distinct, independent domain for Success Parenting, and extended because I’ve been going through a steep learning curve in putting everything together, including courses for parents, for teachers, and for schools.

SuccessParenting.org is going to hit the scene fairly soon, so I’ll reblog everything I’ve already put here on this WordPress site, and for a few months after kicking off I’ll reblog from the new website on to here. You’ll also see a variety of posts from other parenting sites, accompanied by worksheets to stimulate critical reading, listening and watching, as my notion of being successful in serving today’s parents is helping you to develop a thoughtful approach to raising your children, rather than telling you what to do!

So my immediate plan is to resume giving you weekly Tips from my coming e-book, finding relevant posts on other parenting sites for presenting during the same week as the corresponding Tip, offering a worksheet each week for you to evaluate the various information or advice, and asking for your comments and Likes as well as more formal direct feedback through a survey.

You’ll be able to see the results of the survey in a summary blog at the end of each week, and your advice and requests will feature in a range of courses I’m developing, to ensure that your needs are addressed in a way you find useful. Whether for student or parent, there’s not much point in a course unless it does this!

This is my plan. Please let me know what you think, so please comment on the Success Parenting Facebook page and here (the new blogging site will have Facebook comments on the page), Like and Share. Success Parenting communities will be much more effective than individuals. A class of Success Parenting children will learn a lot more and a lot faster than a lone SP child in the class.

Poem

I was feeling in a bit of trivial mood, after working really hard at getting a free audio course written and ready for recording, and I wanted to edit an account online. This poem was inspired by an innocent search!

I was looking for God on google,

And what do you think I found?

Godzilla and Go Daddy!

Who’s trying to win me round?

Another post tomorrow – a bit more topical, I think!

Don’t React! – Think First … and Then Respond

Reaction usually starts out as an abrupt and unthinking response to an event, and is a major cause of communication breakdown. However hard you may try to get your children to “behave well”, when you react, you teach them to react. You can save yourself from reacting by deliberately pausing between the event and your response. This is what is meant by the proverb, “Look before you leap”. You’ll find that your children become less reactive and more responsive in return – given time.

As a parent, you’re now raising your awareness of how your own attitude affects Continue reading

SkyU

Short clips extolling the benefits of interesting learning resources. Someone’s beginning to realise that “educational” doesn’t have to mean “so boring for so many kids that they have to be ‘forced to learn'”.

Commend What Your Child Does Well

We live in a culture where finding fault with other people is seen and experienced as the main way of dealing with problems. Offered in a supportive way criticism can be very useful, but it’s usually delivered and received as an attack. In the critic’s mind, it’s always the other who’s wrong, so that the critic never has to look inwardly at themselves.

As a result, many people are afraid to reach out and truly help others on their own terms. We need to find a way back to communicating effectively.

How many people have arguments where, after it’s over, neither person has any greater understanding of the other? The argument has yielded nothing, because each person was listening only to his or her own point of view.

Family arguments start by one complaining about another. Complaining is a form of criticism, whereas commending the good and showing gratitude have the power to bring out the best in everyone.This is cultivating the listening in your child, and at any time of life this is the road to success.
image_4       image_12But while you’re waiting for the change to occur in him, if that’s what needs to happen, you can cultivate your own listening, so that you can speak in a way which he can hear.

Speak to the listening of your child. 

Imagine how your child is going to feel next time you take the trouble to notice and commend him. Remember his attitude last night? Imagine how much easier it will be to talk to him about difficult things when you invest time, thought and energy into building him up on a regular basis. Imagine his attitude melting away entirely, because of the significance he now feels in your eyes. Imagine the impact on your own sense of significance when you start putting into practice this and the other ideas you read here. Make the commitment to yourself and to your family by studying them in greater depth in my book, available here.
APOLOGIES! The links will be active in the next day or two at the latest!

Cultivating The Habit Of Finding Interest In What Interests Your Child

In an earlier blog, you saw how your child will learn to read for herself, even if all you do is read to her. Crucial to this is allowing her to choose the books she wants to hear and letting her explore them on her own as well. Once you’ve read a book to her, if she likes it enough she’ll want to hear it again. When she’s heard it often enough, amazingly, she’ll use it to teach herself how to read!Image

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Share Experiences With Your Neighbours

Your neighbours are your closest source of assistance, if you should need it. Make sure that your chats focus on solutions, not problems. Building deep friendships through cultivating trust is a powerful way to avoid isolation and getting caught up in all the challenges of bringing up a family.

Only three days ago I was told by my coaching partner that I was the only person she could talk to about the problems she’d been experiencing in her relationship with her children. Having a coaching partner to talk to once a week is handy – but having neighbours 24/7 is a good deal handier!

Research has recently shown that feeling Continue reading